Growing up I was taught three things about marriage:
1. It was a promise made between a husband, wife, and God to stay married until death. (Matthew 19:6) (Matthew 19)
2. God hates divorce. In His eyes, when I made a covenant before Him, I am married to that first person until death even if I choose to divorce and remarry. (Malachi 2:16)
3. Sex before marriage dishonors God. He created it for the bounds of marriage for a reason. The thread of covenant marriage and purity in marriage can be found throughout the redemptive story that Scripture tells. (Matthew 5:28)
Truth + Action = Right Feelings
You won't hear those three things much in our culture these days or even in most of our churches. I have come to realize through doing a study called Biblically Correct that this world has brainwashed me into thinking Right Feelings + Action = Truth instead of filtering everything automatically through God's word.
But, last night, I remembered my mother's words and am so thankful she trained me up in truth before anything else. I have been blessed to hear wisdom from God's word on marriage, heed it, and receive the gift of a wonderful marriage.
What we think about marriage and how we act out our marriages reveals our views on Christ and the church. We are the bride, He is the Bridegroom and when we make a covenant with Him to follow Him, that is a forever promise sealed with His blood for eternity. Just as He sees marriage as an unbreakable union, He also sees His promise to us to keep us saved to the end (1 Corinthians 1:8).
I don't take for granted that the devil wants to steal, kill, and destroy (John 10:10) my family anyway he can to mar our testimonies and distort the beautiful picture of covenant marriage that God reveals in scripture. In Job 31:1 he states, "I made a covenant with my eyes not to look lustfully at a young woman." Jesus takes lust and divorce seriously, too, and so should we.
TRUTH: Lust is against the will of God. To protect ourselves from sin and the consequence of sin we should make a covenant with our eyes.
ACTION: When things are put before our eyes that we shouldn't glance at, read, or consume, we should flee. 1 Corinthians 6:18 says, "Flee from sexual immorality."
RIGHT FEELINGS: God's blessing will follow and feelings will eventually line up with the truth of God's word even if it doesn't make sense to the world.
MY DELEMA: Is it just me, or has your facebook experience changed in the past few weeks? When I pull up the page on my iphone, I have been not only seeing the pages my "friends" like, but two or three pages underneath suggesting other pages of similar content. This was not so bad when the newsfeed, just listed the name of the page, but now it displays the cover image and profile image of the page along with the name. For the first few days I was seeing mostly children's clothing pages or chain stores, but slowly I'm seeing more and more pornographic content based on the pages "liked" by my "friends."
According to Scripture, even if I am not tempted to "like" that page, I am supposed to flee like my pants are on fire from anything that even has the appearance of evil. (1 Thessalonians 5:22) According to the world and my feelings, maybe I am to "defriend" or block those friends' content from my newsfeed.
Here is the problem with that. The people who are liking these pages aren't perverts I knew in High School. They aren't even unbelievers. They are a church leader, recent convert to Christ, and kin folk. This new format has only been in place for a few weeks and I have viewed more filth from the most unlikely of people that I know it will only get worse with time. Like I told a friend, if anything of that nature were to pop up on even a commercial on my T.V., I would turn it off immediately. I have to think of the bigger picture. I have children who could pick up my phone at anytime and be exposed to these images that could cause them to stumble. I have a husband who I must lead a Godly example for and anything I wouldn't want him tolerating on his phone, I don't need to be tolerating on mine.
Facebook was designed to be a contribute and consume form of media, meaning that I post content, but also view or comment on other's content. Facebook was not intended to be a consume only or a contribute only media, but in order to keep my facebook page open, I think it's going to have to be a contribute only media for me besides interacting with those who comment on my posts.
I am praying through how I will go about this. Most likely I will close down my personal page and keep my business page open where you can follow me for wholesome content, but I don't have to see the content of others. My business page will evolve like my blog did from photography heavy content, to a more reflective page of my whole life of faith, photography, and homeschooling.
I will miss keeping up with my friends from elementary school, high school, college, etc. That's where my feelings haven't quite lined up yet and why I haven't made the final decision.
In the mean time, while I am seeking direction, if you enjoy following my content on facebook, but haven't yet liked my business page, maybe you can do so today, just in case I disappear off of your friend list in the near future. https://www.facebook.com/emilypeytoncookphotography
I'd also love to hear your thoughts on this topic and if you have any other solutions as to how I can block the "liked" content from appearing on my newsfeed.